It is no surprise back talking and bad languages are two behaviors many children will try. Why? Chances are they have learned these behaviors. It’s naïve to think that inappropriate words or actions are not surrounding us on a daily basis. One doesn’t have to look too far to see or hear inappropriate language being used.
This is not what most parents want for their children. So what can you do?
You are their role model. Be extra careful with what you say and do at home and in public places. Children may appear not to be listening, but they are indeed watching and listening to your every word. I am sure you have heard this saying many times, “apples don’t fall too far from the tree”. Inappropriate behaviors that are not corrected but are ignored, will become comfortable habits and more difficult to correct as the child grows older.
Here are 5 suggestions to get a handle on it:
1. Model behaviors you wish to instill in your child.
2. Monitor activities and friendships.
3. Establish concrete rules and goals for your home that clearly identifies the behaviors that will or will not be tolerated.
4. Rules broken will have consequences, simple or complex, depending on the child’s age.
5. Everyone in the family participates.
“We need to become students of our speech. With God’s help we can identify and transform destructive dialogue into words of encouragement that are” good for necessary edification” and that “impart grace to the hearers” (Eph. 4:29). –Jennifer Benson Schuldt
Have any additional ideas? We would love to hear about them. –Champion Parenting, Inc.