The real issue is not in the monetary reward but in cultivating a persistent attitude to achieve success. As Joseph Ross states, “It takes time to succeed because success is merely the natural reward of taking time to do anything well.” It just so happens that many times parents often overlook the importance of the process.
Children are no different from adults when setting and achieving goals. They just have limited experience with the process. That is why it is important for parents to primarily focus on the process rather than the rewards.
With this in mind, I am in favor of a reward system, especially with young children. That is, a system of rewards that includes additional ways other than with money.
Here are just a few of these ways:
-Children can be rewarded with extra individual me time with you such as a special breakfast, lunch, or dinner that can be arranged at a favorite
-New places of interest or fun activities can be arranged that might include visits to museums, zoos, parks, indoor swimming pools, etc.
-Sporting equipment can be used as a special reward with emphasis on increasing physical activity and outside interests.
-Technology devices, or enrolling in fun classes, can also be part of a reward system.
And finally, be creative and make a list of items together that can used as future rewards for goals achieved.
Just remember, the main focus is on the process of teaching children persistence as the way to achieve success and becoming lifelong learners. Keeping in mind the words of Hamilton Holt: “Nothing worthwhile comes easy, and half effort does not produce half results. It produces no results. Work, continuous work and hard work, is the only way to accomplish results that last.”
After all, isn’t that the ultimate goal?
-Champion Parenting/Building Leaders for life