Yes, school is right around the corner. Seeing all the back 2 school
sales going on I wonder how much is invested in the child’s mental preparation?
To help parents prepare for the new school year, I have included the following
article recently written in the WSJ, by Dr. Price.
In this article, Dr. Price, a psychologist from New York City
weighs in on the cure for adolescent laziness. You know, the ones who have
time for video games but not for their school work! Dr. Price offers the following
suggestions for parents:
1. Stop telling him how smart he is. Research by Carol Dweck, a professor at Stanford University, shows that constantly telling children they are good at something actually discourages them from trying harder at it-and telling them how smart they are gives them an expectation that they must live up to. Instead, it is better to praise them for working hard.
2. Stop doing the dishes for him. Children are not helped when parents take care of household chores because the children are “too busy” with homework, sports and other activities. Treating them like royalty gives them an unrealistic message about life-that they are special. As Dr. Price so eloquently states, seeing parents take out the garbage does not inspire a teenager to rush, with gratitude to his studies. Rather, the teen concludes that he is above all of that drudgery.
3. Don’t let him off easy. Clinical psychologist Wendy Mogul states that it is easier for parents to feed, shelter and clothe their children than it is for them to set effective limits.
By not enforcing limits, you are conveying again that your child is special, and that the rules of the world do not apply to him.
4. Don’t make him shine for you. Don’t make unrealistic expectations for your child. Look for opportunities that provide a good fit for your child, rather than looking for names of colleges or schools that add class to your car’s rear window or bumper.
And finally, remember that not all adolescent brains mature at the same rate. So sharpen your saw and be equally prepared for the new school year ahead!
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